God is our perfect model of fatherhood; Christ is our perfect model of a husband. They both gave Their all and Their best for us; a godly husband must do the same for his family.



Most of what you have already read in this article could fit into this category of Spiritual Leadership. Love, biblical headship and service are all ways of leading spiritually in your family. But there are still a few important things to note.


It has been well stated that the role of the Christian husband is modeled after the Person, Character and Ministry of Christ. Let us look at one of the primary functions of Christ’s ministry to the Church:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such tiring, but that she should be holy and without blemish” (Eph 5:25- 27).

Christ’s example gives the husband another dear priority in marriage: encouraging his wife’s spiritual development. A husband should desire his wife to have a personal relationship with the Lord that is strong, active and growing. A godly husband will recognize that his wife’s fulfillment as a woman, wife and mother will be realized only as she knows and walks with God daily.

In marriage, a husband is “one” with his wife (Eph 5:31).His words and actions can either encourage his wife’s spiritual growth, or hinder it. The husband is certainly not his wife’s “god” or “savior”. Her heavenly Father is her God, and Jesus Christ is her Savior. But a husband can have a significant part in leading his wife spiritually.

This does not mean a wife is spiritually inferior to her husband. Women are oftentimes more sensitive to spiritual things than men are. Women have spiritual gifts and ministry capabilities, just as men do. Both men and women are spiritual beings; both are created for relationship with God.


“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them [wives] with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered” (1 Pet 3:7).

In the day when Peter wrote these words, women were considered inferior to men. In both pagan cultures and heathen religions, women had no rights and were unimportant except as child-bearers and laborers.

Christ’s life and teachings completely reversed this. With the entrance of Christianity, women were now considered equal with men in terms of salvation and relationship with God (Gal 3:28). It was now recognized that, like men, women have ministry gifts given by the Holy Spirit for the building up of the Church (Acts 21:9; see also Joel 2:28, 29 with Acts 2:17,18). Wives are described in the Bible as “heirs together (with the husband) of the grace of life” (1 Pet 3:7); this places women at an equal level spiritually with men. This is still true today.