A husband’s neglect of responsibility can happen if he is gone too much away from home. Though it may even be ministry responsibilities that cause his absence, this is neither right nor scriptural.

The husband’s first priority is his relationship with God. His next priority is his relationship with his wife and children. His marriage and family come before his ministry responsibilities or his job. A good husband does, of course, need to work to provide for his family (1 Tim 5:8). But he must also take the time to love and care for his wife, and instruct his children in the home. Neglecting a wife and children for ministry in the church is NOT according to God’s plan or the principles of Scripture. A Christ-like husband will work hard to properly balance his time among all of his God-given responsibilities.


The Spirit-led husband will serve his family by humbly accepting the privilege and responsibility of headship in his home. He will make every effort to provide for the needs of his family: spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically and socially. He will use his God­ given authority to teach, direct, encourage, plan for and serve his family.

God is our perfect model of fatherhood; Christ is our perfect model of a husband. They both gave Their all and Their best for us; a godly husband must do the same for his family.



Most of what you have already read in this article could fit into this category of Spiritual Leadership. Love, biblical headship and service are all ways of leading spiritually in your family. But there are still a few important things to note.


It has been well stated that the role of the Christian husband is modeled after the Person, Character and Ministry of Christ. Let us look at one of the primary functions of Christ’s ministry to the Church:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such tiring, but that she should be holy and without blemish” (Eph 5:25- 27).

Christ’s example gives the husband another dear priority in marriage: encouraging his wife’s spiritual development. A husband should desire his wife to have a personal relationship with the Lord that is strong, active and growing. A godly husband will recognize that his wife’s fulfillment as a woman, wife and mother will be realized only as she knows and walks with God daily.

In marriage, a husband is “one” with his wife (Eph 5:31).His words and actions can either encourage his wife’s spiritual growth, or hinder it. The husband is certainly not his wife’s “god” or “savior”. Her heavenly Father is her God, and Jesus Christ is her Savior. But a husband can have a significant part in leading his wife spiritually.