This interruption or obstacles in a man’s prayers can mean two things:

  • The interference of Satan and his ways into a marriage, through the disunity that results from a husband’s failure to adequately care for his wife.
  • God’s potential resistance to those who violate the principles of His Word (Ps 66:18; Prov 1:28-30, 28:9).

In addition to a husband’s prayers being hindered, his ability to spiritually lead his family will also be hampered. It is difficult for a wife and children to submit to and follow someone who does not love them or care for them. Godly spiritual leadership begins with caring for and loving those you lead. This is true both in the home and in the Church. This is how our heavenly Father and His Son initiated the plan of salvation (John 3:16) and how They continue to lead us (Eph 5:1, 2). This is the only way to lead others spiritually.


There are many ways for a husband to live each day as a spiritual leader in the home. The Word of God has hundreds of verses that describe how to love and properly relate to other people. (For example: Matt 6:14, 15; Rom 13:8; Gal 6:2; Col 3:9.) The many Scripture verses that teach us how to relate properly to others should all be studied and practiced, especially with those in our homes.

Also, as you pray daily for your family, the Holy Spirit will show you how to be a better spiritual leader and more effectively meet the needs of your family.

In addition, here are a few simple examples of practical ways to spiritually lead in your home.


The most powerful and important thing a husband can do for his wife and children is to pray for them. “The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” (Jas 5:16). Much is accomplished through a husband’s daily work of prayer for his family.

As a husband seeks the Lord, his heart will become more aligned with the will of God for his family. He will know better how to set priorities and determine what direction his family needs to go. He will be able to lead with joy and confidence, because he will know what God wants him to do.

Jesus is continually making intercession to God on behalf of His Bride, the Church (Heb 7:25). Jesus is praying according to the will of God for us. Romans 8:26, 27 assures us of that, and promises that the Holy Spirit will lead us even when “we do not know what we should pray for as we ought” as we pray for our family.

Jesus prays continually for us. A husband will follow Christ’s example when he prays regularly for his wife and children. Though a husband may have many other ministry needs to pray for, the prayer needs and concerns of his wife and children should come first.  Remember, God’s order requires that the family be of higher priority to a husband (or wife) than the ministry.