A GODLY GUIDELINE FOR LOVE

A good and godly way for husbands and wives to practice loving their spouse is to study 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 often. Read this passage daily, and pray for God to help you love your spouse in this selfless way.

Perhaps you could choose one key phrase each week to work on, such as “love is… kind” (v.4). Each day of that week, practice extra kindness toward your spouse.

If you experience weakness or failure in loving your spouse, be quick to apologize. If you get impatient, admit it to them and ask for forgiveness. Pray together with your spouse, and together ask God to deliver you from your weaknesses and knit your hearts in love for one another.

PRACTICAL SERVICE

Love for a spouse should be reflected in actions as well as words. Husbands must learn to be sensitive to their wives. They must take the time to listen to them, and respond with words of comfort or encouragement.

A husband should take the time to help his wife with household chores, or with the children. The caring for the home and family is the responsibility of both the husband and wife.

There are many ways for a husband to show love, concern and care for his wife. This is something a husband should work on daily. Remember, a husband is to care for his wife as much as he would care for his own body (Eph 5:28, 29).

THE GREATEST PRIVILEGE AND RESPONSIBILITY:

HEADSHIP

The biblical principle of headship and authority in the home is vitally important for a husband to understand. It is essential for a good marriage and happy family. And a home in scriptural order is one of the key requirements for leadership in the Church (1 Tim 3:2-12).

Ephesians 5:23 clearly shows the husband as the head of the family: “For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is Head of the Church; and He is the Savior of the body.” Unfortunately, the biblical meaning of headship is often misunderstood and abused.  Let us examine the true meaning of headship.

SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY: A GOD-APPOINTED SERVICE

Sin entered the human race at the Fall (Genesis 3). The chaos and brokenness resulting from sin caused a need for right order to again be established. Thus, God has appointed that specific authority (rulership) be given to certain people. Because this order of authority is from God, it is therefore good (see Romans 13:1-7). But what people do with that God given authority and power is not always good.

God places people in positions of authority for the good of those they serve: to protect them from harm, guide them with wisdom, and rule well over them to keep order and peace. Consequently, God strongly disapproves when people misuse their authority and power for their own selfish gain.

Whether it is in government, at a job or in a marriage, those who do not carefully and wisely use their authority will come under judgment. Each man, as a husband or a citizen (or leader) of a nation, will give an account for how he has used the authority God has given him.