At those times, remember that “the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit Who was given to us” (Rom 5:5). God has given husbands the ability to love their wives in every circumstance through the power of the Holy Spirit. It is a man’s privilege and responsibility to let God’s love flow through him to his wife, especially in difficult times (Col 3:19).

It is also helpful to find, talk to and pray with another Christian man who understands how to love his wife. A man is not a good husband just because he gets married; it can take many years of loving, sacrificing and praying to become the kind of husband God wants you to be. A husband will fail and make mistakes, just as a wife will. It takes time for the character and nature of Christ to be worked into our lives. God is loving and patient; turn to Him often to ask for His help as you grow in becoming a godly husband.


A good and godly way for husbands and wives to practice loving their spouse is to study 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 often. Read this passage daily, and pray for God to help you love your spouse in this selfless way.

Perhaps you could choose one key phrase each week to work on, such as “love is… kind” (v.4). Each day of that week, practice extra kindness toward your spouse.

If you experience weakness or failure in loving your spouse, be quick to apologize. If you get impatient, admit it to them and ask for forgiveness. Pray together with your spouse, and together ask God to deliver you from your weaknesses and knit your hearts in love for one another.


Love for a spouse should be reflected in actions as well as words. Husbands must learn to be sensitive to their wives. They must take the time to listen to them, and respond with words of comfort or encouragement.

A husband should take the time to help his wife with household chores, or with the children. The caring for the home and family is the responsibility of both the husband and wife.

There are many ways for a husband to show love, concern and care for his wife. This is something a husband should work on daily. Remember, a husband is to care for his wife as much as he would care for his own body (Eph 5:28, 29).



The biblical principle of headship and authority in the home is vitally important for a husband to understand. It is essential for a good marriage and happy family. And a home in scriptural order is one of the key requirements for leadership in the Church (1 Tim 3:2-12).