The second priority for a wife is to be a helper to her husband. She must love and care for her husband, receive with submission his God given role of headship, honor and respect him, and be a good partner to him in life and ministry.
A woman needs to take the necessary time each day to work on these first two priorities. But what is the next priority for a godly woman?
We find it in Titus 2:4: “Admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children…”.
A wife’s third priority (if she has children) is to love and care for her children. According to Scripture, both she and her husband must share this responsibility in order to properly raise and train their children (Gen 1:27; Deut 6:6,7; Prov 22:6; Eph 6:1-4).
When children are young, they require much time and attention. A wife might feel she has time for nothing else but caring for the children. ‘But she must also try to maintain her other priorities: giving time each day to her relationship with God, and to her relationship with her husband.
There are serious consequences when a wife begins to place her children above her husband in importance. (For an example of the problems this creates, read the story of Isaac and Rebekah in Genesis 24-28, especially 25:28 and 27:1-46.)
The same can be true if a husband begins to neglect his wife because of long hours at work or in ministry. The wife, the marriage and the family will suffer.
There is no other human relationship as important as the husband and wife relationship. BOTH the husband and wife must give their relationship the time and attention necessary to keep it healthy and to maintain unity.
In addition, they both must devote time to raising and training their children in the ways of the Lord. Children need love, care, feeding, nurturing, training and discipline to grow up to be godly and productive adults. Both the husband and wife are charged by God to devote themselves to this privilege and responsibility.
To properly raise children in a biblical manner, parents should include the following:
- teach, train and nurture children (Deut 4:9; 6:6, 7; Prov 22:6; Eph 6:4)
- sanctify children to God through prayer and worship (Job 1:5; Luke 2:22, 23)
- include children in worship times (Josh 8:35; Neh 12:43; Luke 2:41-46)
- restrain children from evil (1 Sam 3:13; 1 Tim 3:4,12)
- chasten/ discipline children (Prov 13:24; 22:15; 29:15, 17; Heb 12:6)
- love their children (Prov 13:24; Titus 2:4)
- be forgiving toward children (Luke 15:20-24; Eph 4:32)
- provide a godly example to children (2 Chr 26:4 2 Tim 1:5)
Godly parenting cannot be accomplished with only occasional interaction with one’s children. Deuteronomy 6:6, 7 makes it clear that properly raising your children takes daily conversation, training and discipline. Opportunities arise every day for parents to communicate God’s love, His Word and His plans for their children. Parents must be present with their children and available to them in order to adequately train and raise them.
TO EVERYTHING THERE IS A SEASON
As children grow in godliness and as a marriage matures, both require less time to manage. What then is a fourth priority for a Christian wife, according to Scripture?