THE ROLE OF WOMEN
God said to man, “It is not good that man should be alone” (Gen 2:18).
It was part of God’s plan from the beginning for man and woman to live together in marriage. He made woman FOR man, to be a helper at his side. They are intended to share with each other, love and respect each other, and work and live together in harmony – one unit, under the authority of God.
That is godly companionship. It implies cooperation, working WITH each other, worshiping and praying together, serving and ministering together, winning souls together.
“I will make him a helper…”
It is important for Christians, BOTH men and women, to remember that God made a wife as a helper to her husband. A wife is not a slave or somehow less important than her husband. She is instead created to be a partner, a sharer, a companion to her husband.
“And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.
“Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh’” (Gen 2:21-23).
That is the way the Bible says a man should feel about his wife – he should love her as his own flesh, and nourish and cherish her (Eph 5:28,29).
THE WOMAN AS SEXUAL PARTNER
“Therefore a man shall… be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24).
God created man and woman with the ability to be “one flesh”, to be joined together in intimate sexual union. It is a very important part of the marriage relationship. This part of marriage is not just to provide children, but also to strengthen the love and sharing between husband and wife.
One must be married in order to have sexual relations, according to the Bible. In Old Testament times, if anyone could prove a woman was not a virgin when she married, she was brought to the door of her father’s house and the men of the city stoned her to death (Deut 22:20-21).
In New Testament times, Jesus showed mercy to those who broke the moral laws. He forgave and restored them when they failed due to ignorance or sinful choice. BUT, Jesus also told them, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more” (John 8:11). They were forgiven but still needed to stop sinning!
The Jews understood the importance of a husband and wife enjoying a proper sexual relationship. Their culture freed a newly married man from his military or business duties for a whole year so he could “…bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken” (Deut 24:5).
This meant more than just having sexual relations. It also allowed time for the husband and wife to learn to work together, to get to know each other, and to let their lives be joined together in every way. It takes time to learn to work as a team, and to think more of your partner than of yourself.
IS SEX WRONG?
In New Testament times, there was a disagreement in the Corinthian church about the importance of the sexual relationship.